Have you ever had those days, or nights, or moments, where you felt totally alone?
You look on facebook, and all your friends are out busy, doing something, no one is replying..
and you're left all alone
with your thoughts.
I gotta say, even though I have been walking with God for quite some time now
every day I still fight that battle that many young girls your age struggle with:
my identity.
When I was a teenager, I was overweight, I dressed like a boy, I didn't know what cover up was
and later when I started using makeup, you could easily say I overdid it and i looked like a clown.
And even though I liked to pretend that I was strong, like I didn't care what I looked like, or what anyone thought of me..
inside, every time I was alone with my thoughts, I was told I was ugly, fat, stupid, alone, hated, betrayed, unloved, worthy of nothing.
And sometimes even today when i'm weak and when I spend my time with other things that don't include God... satan finds a way to poke at this soft spot of mine and I drown myself in self doubt and destruction
but it didn't have to be that way
and it doesn't have to be that way for you
When I realized how often this happens I got really embarrassed and ashamed of myself so I tried to find out why it happens and how to run away from it
our evil defeater is comparison.
from the beginning of time satan used comparison to bring destruction into the world
"if you eat this apple you will be like God"
and nowadays he does the same thing
if you wear your makeup this way you will be beautiful
if you are as skinny as "her" you are perfect
if you wear this boys will notice you
He set up this trap for us called media.
it could be anything from actresses, models, pinterest, and even the facebook, photos of girls we know.
if only I had brunette hair like her
if only I was as skinny as her
why cant I pierce my ears like her
why cant boys like me like they like her
we compare compare and compare without even noticing.
lets make a list of what the expectations are for a model in this society...
9 out of 10 people will not fit into these basic physical requirements.
six feet or taller
35 inches is about the maximum for hip measurements, and then take it down another 10 inches for waist measurement. For adult females, breasts also not large
The two most important aspects for any model—supermodel or not—is the hair and skin.
Hair and skin! Your hair must be flawless and impeccable. Your skin must be flawless and impeccable. your skin must be smooth, dry, free of flaws, and taut. Hair must be shiny, healthy-looking, and not overly long
- female:
- 5'8 to 6'0
- 90lb- 120lb
Now lets take a look at Gods standards for us
Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. – Proverbs 31:30
Likewise, I want women to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments, but rather by means of good works, as is proper for women making a claim to godliness. – 1 Timothy 2:9-10
For am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God? Or am I striving to please men? If I were still trying to please men, I would not be a bond-servant of Christ. – Galatians 1:10
Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men. –Colossians 3:23
As I got closer to God he taught me that it doesn't matter what the world wants you to look like , the only thing that matters is how Christ sees you
and you know how he sees you?
As a precious being
His child
His princess
You are so important to him that he died for you and called you his child
a daughter of the king, how does that feel?
when we identify with Christ we become more aware of our purpose
Christ came to this earth to love, to heal, to save, to teach, and to give us an example
of what true beauty
and true worth is
and when we strive to be like him
when we strive to focus our whole life on serving others
it no longer matters what that boy or girl thinks of you, it no longer matters what brand you wear, or how you do your hair
all that matters is that when people look at you
they see the beauty of Christ.
when we are dissatisfied with how God made us to be
we are only showing him that we disapprove of his creation
he created you to be perfect in his sight
and once we learn who God truly made us to be
that is when we become beautiful on the outside too
and I know its hard to live up to Christ, we all fail and we are all sinners
but the best part is, that every day is a new chance to live and grow and change
as long as we lay all our sin before God and let him change us.
O Lord, You have searched me and known me.
You know my sitting down and my rising up;
You understand my thought afar off.
You comprehend my path and my lying down,
And are acquainted with all my ways.
For there is not a word on my tongue,
But behold, O Lord, You know it altogether.
You have hedged me behind and before,
And laid Your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me;
It is high, I cannot attain it.
Where can I go from Your Spirit?
Or where can I flee from Your presence?
If I ascend into heaven, You are there;
If I make my bed in hell, behold, You are there.
If I take the wings of the morning,
And dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea,
Even there Your hand shall lead me,
And Your right hand shall hold me.
If I say, “Surely the darkness shall fall on me,”
Even the night shall be light about me;
Indeed, the darkness shall not hide from You,
But the night shines as the day;
The darkness and the light are both alike to You.
For You formed my inward parts;
You covered me in my mother’s womb.
I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Marvelous are Your works,
And that my soul knows very well.
My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
And in Your book they all were written,
The days fashioned for me,
When as yet there were none of them.
How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God!
How great is the sum of them!
If I should count them, they would be more in number than the sand;
When I awake, I am still with You.
Oh, that You would slay the wicked, O God!
Depart from me, therefore, you bloodthirsty men.
For they speak against You wickedly;
Your enemies take Your name in vain.
Do I not hate them, O Lord, who hate You?
And do I not loathe those who rise up against You?
I hate them with perfect hatred;
I count them my enemies.
Search me, O God, and know my heart;
Try me, and know my anxieties;
And see if there is any wicked way in me,
And lead me in the way everlasting.
